Today is a day that we are to remember what some try to forget, a day that those of us to desperately want to be parents pain for. Today is a day to nationally remember those who have miscarried and lost children. I have a book that came in the mail to me after one of our miscarriages...I still have no idea who it came from! But there are several things in it that still stick with me!
"Grief, by definition, is painful-emotionally and spiritually. It is especially painful when associated with the loss of a baby through miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, or newborn death. We may face more intense feelings and deeper doubts in these circumstances than we have ever experienced before."
"Accepting what cannot be changed is possible when God is the foundation of our lives. But even that firm foundation can be shaken by the death of a baby."
"Your baby is gone. No one can change this fact. Nothing can bring your baby back. This is the heartbreak of miscarriage. You were looking forward to being this child's parent. You were storing up love, ready to lavish it on this new child. You were ready to welcome her into your life and to cherish her with the love only a parent can give. Suddenly, before you even had a chance to really hold your baby, she slipped beyond your grasp. Now, all your expectations and hopes for this child are gone, and all your preparations seem pointless."
"One mother described her feelings after her miscarriage by recalling an incident that happened when she and her husband were newlyweds. While swimming in a river, her wedding ring slipped off into the swift current. Despite their frantic searching, her ring was gone forever. She felt sickened, disappointed, and inconsolable. She valued her wedding ring tremendously. She blamed her own carelessness. Her husband tried to comfort her by offering to replace it. He meant well, but she became angry. It was her ring, and it was gone. To her, there was no replacement for the ring that symbolized their love and commitment. The loss of this intimate part of her life was the closet she could come to describing her anguish after her miscarriage."
"Slow down and take a few quiet moments to consider what is happening to you and how you can handle the events and emotions flooding you right now. The, after this quiet time, you can make decisions and take the appropriate actions."
These are just little nuggets from the small book, "When Your Baby Dies ~ Through Miscarriage or Stillbirth" by Louis A. Gamino & Ann Taylor Cooney
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